Question 2 of 72

I understand the difference between a marriage contract and a marriage covenant.

Question 3 of 72

I have thoughtfully considered the full meaning of the vows I made or plan to make.

Question 4 of 72

I choose commitment over feelings when the two are in conflict.

Question 5 of 72

I view marriage as a permanent, lifelong union — not something I would exit when it becomes difficult.

Question 6 of 72

I honor my marriage vows in my thoughts, words, and actions.

Question 8 of 72

My partner and I have real, meaningful conversations — not just about schedules and logistics.

Question 9 of 72

I feel genuinely heard and understood when I share something important.

Question 10 of 72

I give my partner my full, undivided attention when they are talking to me.

Question 11 of 72

I am able to express my feelings clearly without shutting down or becoming defensive.

Question 12 of 72

My partner and I follow through on commitments we make to each other.

Question 14 of 72

When conflict arises, we treat it as us against the problem — not against each other.

Question 15 of 72

I can say I was wrong without attaching excuses or shifting blame.

Question 16 of 72

We resolve disagreements without lingering resentment or unresolved tension.

Question 17 of 72

My partner and I fight fair — no name-calling, stonewalling, or bringing up the past.

Question 18 of 72

After a disagreement, we reconnect and repair the relationship before moving on.

Question 20 of 72

I feel emotionally safe being fully vulnerable with my partner.

Question 21 of 72

My partner responds to my pain or struggles with empathy rather than problem-solving.

Question 22 of 72

I know what is going on inside my partner emotionally — not just on the surface.

Question 23 of 72

My partner celebrates my accomplishments and acknowledges my growth.

Question 24 of 72

I feel truly known — not just loved — by my partner.

Question 26 of 72

We maintain regular physical affection beyond just sexual intimacy — touch, closeness, presence.

Question 27 of 72

Our physical intimacy reflects the emotional depth of our relationship.

Question 28 of 72

I feel desired and pursued by my partner — not assumed or taken for granted.

Question 29 of 72

My partner and I have openly discussed our expectations around physical and sexual intimacy.

Question 30 of 72

Physical intimacy is a priority in our relationship — not something consistently deprioritized.

Question 32 of 72

My partner and I share aligned spiritual beliefs and values.

Question 33 of 72

We pray together or engage in shared spiritual practices regularly.

Question 34 of 72

Faith plays an active role in how we make decisions as a couple.

Question 35 of 72

Our spiritual life together deepens our connection as a couple.

Question 36 of 72

We are part of a faith community or support network that invests in our marriage.

Question 38 of 72

My partner and I have openly discussed our financial values, habits, and goals.

Question 39 of 72

We approach money as a team — making financial decisions together rather than independently.

Question 40 of 72

We live within our means and avoid financial decisions that create tension in our relationship.

Question 41 of 72

We have a shared financial plan — savings, debt, and future goals.

Question 42 of 72

Money is a topic we can discuss openly without it escalating into conflict.

Question 44 of 72

My partner and I have discussed our expectations around children and parenting.

Question 45 of 72

We prioritize our marriage relationship alongside — not below — our roles as parents.

Question 46 of 72

We present a united front to our children and family — decisions are made together.

Question 47 of 72

My family of origin patterns influence my marriage in ways I have examined and am aware of.

Question 48 of 72

Extended family relationships are a source of support — not stress or division — in our marriage.

Question 50 of 72

My partner and I have discussed and agreed on how we will divide responsibilities in our home.

Question 51 of 72

The division of responsibilities in our relationship feels fair and mutual — not one-sided.

Question 52 of 72

We revisit and adjust our roles as our life circumstances change.

Question 53 of 72

Neither partner carries a disproportionate share of the emotional or practical load.

Question 54 of 72

We serve each other willingly — without scorekeeping or resentment.

Question 56 of 72

We have a strong support system — people invested in the health of our marriage.

Question 57 of 72

We maintain healthy friendships that build us up individually and as a couple.

Question 58 of 72

Our social lives are balanced — neither partner feels isolated or overwhelmed.

Question 59 of 72

We protect our marriage from outside influences that could create division.

Question 60 of 72

We have at least one couple or mentor relationship that models the marriage we aspire to.

Question 62 of 72

I continue to invest in my own personal development — emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually.

Question 63 of 72

My partner and I intentionally invest in our marriage — books, counseling, coaching, or retreats.

Question 64 of 72

I am genuinely curious about who my partner is becoming — not just who they have been.

Question 65 of 72

We celebrate each other's individual growth rather than feeling threatened by it.

Question 66 of 72

I take personal responsibility for my role in our relationship.

Question 68 of 72

My partner and I have a shared vision for our future — where we are going and what we are building together.

Question 69 of 72

We talk about our dreams, goals, and future plans in a way that excites and unites us.

Question 70 of 72

I feel hopeful and confident about the future of our relationship.

Question 71 of 72

We make major life decisions together — neither partner acts unilaterally on things that affect both.

Question 72 of 72

When I imagine our life together 20 years from now, I feel grateful and excited — not uncertain or resigned.